Toddler Tantrums

We're just beginning to see changes in our nearly 15 month old as he becomes more determined to try things for himself.  He can often squeal or cry out of sheer frustration.

Here's an example ... Jozef now holds his own spoon at meal times.  He gets busy tapping the spoon into his bowl, and licking whatever manages to stick.  Mummy holds another spoon so she can feed him and then everyone is happy.  With just ONE spoon the concept of "sharing" or of "Mummy helping" is too much to handle (pardon the pun) and not understood at this age!

• Schedule LESS!

Frustration, crying and meltdowns can appear when little ones are over- tired, over-stimulated or their energy levels are low and they are hungry.

Check to ensure that you are not over-scheduling.

A limit of only 2 - 3 outings each week works well for Jozef and I.  This could mean going for a 1 - 2 hour walk, going to church, seeing the Doctor, doing the grocery shopping, visiting the acquarium, a museum or library, going to a playgroup with other children, visiting a friend for a playdate or inviting friends over.

I would be the one having the meltdown if we were out every day (although it is good to step outside for half an hour to get some fresh air, even at -10 degrees celsius and below!).

• Ignore the meltdown - walk away if you have to

Try not giving the behaviour an audience - simply walk away if you have to, if you are not able to ignore, then ...

• Distract them

Take them to another play area in the house, put on some music, sit somewhere quiet and read a book, perhaps even ask to park your grocery trolley - leave the store and come back when things are settled down, find a quiet place to sit and observe what is happening around you (try and avoid being caught up in the moment).

I'd love to hear what works FOR YOU, when dealing with those toddler tantrums and mini meltdowns.